{"id":2020,"date":"2020-10-19T03:10:31","date_gmt":"2020-10-19T03:10:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/?page_id=2020"},"modified":"2022-10-06T10:16:40","modified_gmt":"2022-10-06T10:16:40","slug":"lla7","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/live-like-an-aristotelian-week\/lla7\/","title":{"rendered":"Day 7 – Virtue and Friendship"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Day 7:<\/b>
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There is also a dispute regarding a happy person as to whether he will need friends or not. For people say that those who are blessed and self-sufficient have no need of friends, since they already have the things that are good, and being self-sufficient, then, they need nothing in addition \u2026. It seems strange, though, to allocate all the good things to a happy person and yet not to grant him friends, who seem to be the greatest of external goods.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u2013 Aristotle, <\/span>Nicomachean Ethics<\/span> IX.9<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Is friendship essential to human happiness? This question is especially acute for Aristotle’s understanding of happiness, since he defines eudaimonia<\/i> early on in the Nicomachean Ethics<\/i> as a complete and self-sufficient activity of the human soul. But friendship, as he notes above, is an \u201cexternal good.\u201d If friendship is essential to the good life, how can the good life be a self-sufficient <\/span>one?<\/span><\/p>\n

Part of the way Aristotle responds to this problem is by distinguishing between different types of friendship and exploring the special nature of what he calls a \u201cvirtue-friendship.\u201d This is the best type of friendship in his view. The other two types of friendship he discusses in the Nicomachean Ethics<\/i> are \u201cutility-friendships\u201d and \u201cpleasure-friendships<\/span>.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The common feature of these lower types of friendship is that they\u2019re fundamentally self-serving<\/span>. In a utility-friendship, your dealings with another person serve your own advantage, often with that person\u2019s tacit agreement. This is what relationships look like in the world of commerce and most professional fields, which involve the mutual exchange of goods. There\u2019s nothing wrong with these relationships and they may even be necessary for the smooth functioning of civic life, but Aristotle doesn\u2019t think they\u2019re essential for happiness. Likewise with pleasure-friendships: you value another person insofar as he or she gives you pleasure or enjoyment, and you may even do so with the consent of that person. Such relationships are abundant in our lives, though once more, Aristotle doesn\u2019t believe we need them for our personal happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n

What is essential, he believes, is virtue-friendship. And what\u2019s characteristic about this relationship is that you value the other person for his or her virtue, which is to say you value the friend for his or her own sake. As Aristotle puts it memorably, such a friend is \u201canother self\u201d (NE<\/i> IX.10, 1170b). Now, it\u2019s important to observe that valuing another person for his or her own sake doesn\u2019t mean you cannot also derive pleasure or utility from the relationship. There’s no such thing as complete altruism here. In fact, Aristotle believes that the superiority of a virtue-friendship<\/span> can be seen in the way it allows you to experience the goodness of virtue, utility, and pleasure altogether. However, what ultimately motivates you to treat the other person well in this relationship is not the prospect of utility or pleasure for yourself, but the actual good of that person.
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Consider the types of friendship in your life for today. For much of this week, you\u2019ve undertaken a training regimen in cultivating virtue in the way that Aristotle thinks you should. But he also thinks that friendship is a virtue or at least \u201cinvolves virtue\u201d (<\/span>NE<\/i> VIII.1, 1155a). How well do you cultivate your friendships? Do an inventory, perhaps by\u00a0browsing your social media feeds, of the various kinds of relationships you have with others and ask yourself how you might classify them in terms of Aristotle\u2019s threefold scheme. How many are pleasure-friendships? How many are utility-friendships? How many are virtue-friendships<\/span>?<\/span><\/p>

Notice also how several of the exercises you’ve engaged in this week have been self-directed. Today, by contrast, you get to explore your nature as a political animal, which is what you basically are according to Aristotle (see\u00a0<\/span>NE<\/span>\u00a0I.7, 1097b; IX.9, 1169b).\u00a0<\/span>The fragility of the good life is a point that\u00a0he insists upon in the <\/span>Nicomachean Ethics<\/i>. He believes that without the presence of some external goods in our lives, we simply cannot live well, and that part of our work as political beings\u00a0involves the pursuit of external goods. Likewise, it’s the work of legislators and those in political office to facilitate our achievement of these goods.<\/span><\/p>

This idea seems to resonate particularly strongly\u00a0<\/span>following the recent pandemic.\u00a0<\/span>If Aristotle is right that friendship is the greatest of external goods for us, then our relationships with others must contribute directly to our happiness. Conversely, our\u00a0well-being suffers when we’re deprived of opportunities to interact with others.<\/span><\/p>

Try to spend part of your day today (online if you wish) engaging with people you feel comfortable regarding simply as \u201cpleasure-friends\u201d and \u201cutility-friends.\u201d Spend another part engaging with people you regard as \u201cvirtue-friends\u201d\u2014that is, as people you love for their own sake. In going about your day, ask yourself which group, if any, contributes more to your well-being. How do you engage with others differently in each type of friendship? Has the pandemic situation and the restrictions it’s placed on our social lives over the last few years affected how you value some of these relationships in comparison with others?<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Day 7:Virtue and Friendship Live Like an Aristotelian Background There is also a dispute regarding a happy person as to whether he will need friends or not. For people say that those who are blessed and self-sufficient have no need of friends, since they already have the things that are […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"parent":1105,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-2020","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/2020","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2020"}],"version-history":[{"count":39,"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/2020\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6150,"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/2020\/revisions\/6150"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1105"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/livingagoodlife.com\/fall2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2020"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}